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Grandparents who are Denied Access to Grandchildren

By: Elizabeth Grace - Updated: 22 Jun 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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While grandparents who are denied access to their grandchildren by the children's parents must certainly feel hurt and angry the fact remains that legally, grandparents are not automatically guaranteed any rights to their grandchildren.

There are a number of things that grandparents can do to best assure that they will be allowed to develop relationships with their grandkids, but in all but the most serious of circumstances, parents have the right to decide which people can and which cannot spend time with their children.

Healing Rifts

If at all possible, grandparents who are being denied access to their grandchildren should make an effort to mend any hard feelings that exist between them and their grown children. In most cases, parents keep their kids away from their own parents due to unresolved conflicts that exist between the adults. Sometimes, what starts as a minor misunderstanding grows into an argument serious enough to cause discord amongst family members. While both sides may choose to stubbornly hold onto the idea that they are "right," by doing so, everyone loses out on the love and support that happy families provide for one another. There comes a point when being right becomes less important than getting along, and grandchildren are as good a reason as any to make the decision to put aside past hurts and focus on a brighter future.

Grandparents can contact their grown children and express their desire to talk, preferably at a time when the grandchildren will not be present. If a first attempt is unsuccessful, it may be wise for grandparents to take a step back and give their children a bit of space. Ending the call by reassuring their kids that they only want to make peace and letting them know that they would be receptive to being contacted at a later time will let their grown children make the final decision about a reunion without applying excessive pressure.

Seeking Professional Help

While it is not reasonable to expect that old hurts can be healed overnight, willing family members can forge an agreement to begin over, leaving old arguments behind. It can often be difficult for people to see their family members as they really are, but instead they view each other from a possibly outdated perspective. Grandparents sometimes view their grown children as the irresponsible people that they may have been as teenagers or young adults, while the grandparents may be seen by their grown kids as judgmental and controlling -- characteristics that may no longer be accurate for either generation. Seeking the assistance of a licensed social worker or family counselor may be beneficial since an outsider can sometimes offer an objective point of view not easily achieved by those closest to the situation.

Extreme Circumstances

In some families, the reasons for disagreements are well founded. Addictions, abuse issues, and some illnesses can cause adult family members to purposefully distance themselves from one another and also to protect the youngest family members from being placed in possibly dangerous situations. In cases where grandparents have a history of destructive or abusive behaviours, it is not unreasonable for their grown children to keep them away from the grandkids.

Grandparents who can admit that they once engaged in distasteful behaviours but have since sought help and mended their ways may be able to convince their grown children to allow them to be a part of their grandchildren's lives by proving that they no longer pose a threat, but the final decision must be left to the children's parents. Parents have a responsibility to keep their children safe, even if it means keeping them from their grandparents or other family members.

Conversely, if it is the children's parents who are a dangerous influence, grandparents may be forced to seek protection for them. Grandparents who feel certain that they are being kept from their grandchildren because of their grown children's gross dysfunctional behaviours may want to seek legal advice. Children deserve to be raised in a safe, loving environment and while grandparents have no right to interfere with their grown children regarding the raising of the grandchildren under normal circumstances, if the children's safety or well being is at risk, grandparents must take steps to intervene.

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I've been denied access to my grand children today in court because of my son's and the mother's destructive relationship.cafcasSs has recommended no contact and no section 7 although the court recognised I was a loving grandmother it seems contact with me would disrupt the children's lives because of the relationship my son had with HER. SERING ME WOULD REMIND TGEM OF MY DON. who has had an injunction on him by her although allegations have not been proven. What can I do now to try and obtain access
Shaz - 22-Jun-17 @ 12:20 AM
For Sob,I know exactly how you feel as I did the same. The child was already under a care plan. Now my daughter has stopped me seeing them. Sometimes it is best to take a step back and let them get on with it. I know the children are safe because the social workers keep me informed but I miss them terribly.
Sad - 18-Jun-17 @ 11:27 PM
@Milly - that's a bit of a sweeping generalisation. We haven't seen our granchildren because our daughter-in-law does not wish them to be in our lives and she makes our son's life a misery if he disobeys her. There are some nasty people out there who for no reason are on a power trip to make others' lives a complete misery. Me and my husband have never done anything wrong and have gone out of our way to be supportive, kind and generous of our grandchildren but for some that means nothing and it breaks our hearts.
Liz - 15-Jun-17 @ 12:32 PM
Yep. Every grandparent on here is completely blameless. No accountability or ability to see maybe you might play a part in the estrangement. No wonder you guys all don't see your grandchildren
Milly - 13-Jun-17 @ 9:04 PM
My sons xwife will not let me see my gkids. She was in jail on probation violation and the day before she got out i posted on her fbook page she was in jail which the kids knew and nkw shes getting a restraining order against me for posting. I know ot was wrong but i was ready to pull her hair out. I had my grandaughter here for her time in jail. I dont kniw what to do now. I have 3 gkids they live in a dump she lives with a man for 4 yrs. That has beaten her up i seen the 2 black eyes 3 yrs ago. She has them in a dangerous situation. But with this order agaist me i need to call a lawyer right.He plays in a band no licence no job except his big big they suck. She has no job and as far as i know she has no drivers licence for not paying her car ins. I dont know what to do. My son is working out of ohio for gas people and he cant come home till mid june. Im beside myself
Deb - 30-May-17 @ 11:18 PM
I'm absolutely devastated! My daughter in law doesn't like my husband n I (long story) and has worn our son down with constant arguments with him that he has now said he doesn't want us in his or his daughters life as its easier and less stressful! We have tried so hard to sort things out but to no avail. I really don't know what to do as I know we as grandparents have no rights. I've been trying to find out if there is any sort of organisation that can put us in touch with young parent that don't have grandparents as a support network. My husband and I have so much love to give, it's a shame we can't offer to support another couple. Can anyone help (heartbroken grandma)
Heart Broken Grandma - 24-May-17 @ 7:23 PM
My grandchildren are now 7 and 5 years old.I have never seen them, nor have I ever met their mother or seen her family.Despite many attempts, I have had no contact with my son for 11 years.I found out about his marriage and whereabouts accidentally, I do not know what he is doing, actually.My daughter is also married, and I have no contact with her and her husband either.They have no children. Since my separation from my first husband in 2003 and consequent divorce in 2007 the children have had no contact.
chlothra - 22-May-17 @ 3:40 PM
I reported my daughter for mental and emotional abuse of my granddaughter, which is totally genuine, and they told her I reported her, now she won't let me see the children, she lied to the social people, she won't speak to me at all,is there anything I can do. Regards
SOB - 19-May-17 @ 3:08 PM
My son & his gf have stopped me seeing my 11month old grand daughter as we have fallen out. I had an opinion regarding my sons gf addiction to laxatives for 3 years and then giving my grand daughter laxatives as she was a bit constipated. I only aired my concern as a grand parent but now none of them will speak to me. Since this too he has got back in touch with his abusive father and the lady he left me for and now they all have regular contact so they see my granddaughter more than me ! It's breaking my heart not seeing her.
Angie004 - 16-May-17 @ 8:42 AM
Hi. My partners mother has suffered with depression and been on medication for over 20 years.. we've recently been planning our wedding and come across family disagreements on planning. We've had a minor disagreement with his mother over bridesmaids and it's turned so nasty. She's stopped taking her medication just so her reaction is worse. She phones over 30 times a day and leaves nasty emails and voicemail messages. I have retaliated with a nasty email back on a few occasions but only when she's getting out of hand. She's attempted overdose. And drinks excessively.. She's looked after my children on several occasions I've come back to her being drunk she's also been violent towards my partner and laughed about my recent miscarriage. We have totally cut contact with her and now she wants access to my 2 children. I really don't want someone like this around my babies. I just need to know where they stand with access. I'm losing sleep over itwe are hoping to move to Australia later next year could this effect our move? Thank you
Lou - 30-Mar-17 @ 8:50 PM
"My sons's ex girlfriend is stopping me from seeing our granddaughter. I swear I have absolutely done nothing wrong.". I just paraphrased the above quote taken from one of the comments on here...but I find it very telling that not ONE single " grandparent (not just here but on ANY of these types of forums) has admitted to doing or saying ANYTHING at all that would cause their kids to hide the grandchildren. According to these so-called "grandparents", they were simply blindsided and out of the clear blue sky, their own kids are hiding their kids from them.. I expected to read some comments from grandparents stating they did nothing, but EVERY single comment?? No self accountability at all from the grandparents that I have read thus far. And it's really telling. All I hear is their adult children's spouses and partners being blamed. There is sickness here on these boards.
Ava - 16-Mar-17 @ 3:39 PM
Our daughter won't let us talk to our 3 grandsons age 7,4,1+. We only get to talk to them maybe 8 or9 times a year . We live in WV , they live in Arkansas.She tells us they will never visit- it is too far for them to come.We can only visit 1 time a year.When we go we fly. We then rent a car- she told us it is too much for them to pick us up at the airport.We then have to pay for a motel. So we have to cut our visit to only a few days, because of all this expense. Concerning phone calls- she says they are busy and weeknights aren't good.Weekend l ask. She says don't call us, we will call you.When she does call, we ask to talk to the boys, she still has some excu- they are outside, they are busy, etc. Our hearts are broken.Please pray for us.
3086c - 10-Mar-17 @ 10:47 PM
Lou - Your Question:
Hi I would like some advice about my sons ex girlfriend stopping myself and other family members from having any kind of access to my granddaughter. I have absolutely done anything wrong for her to stop me from seeing her.My sons ex girlfriend lives in tasmania and I live in sydney.I just don't understand why she has stopped me as im her grandmother my granddaughter is nearly 1 years old.My son and now hes ex girlfriend are no longer together she has also stopped my son from having any kind of access to hes daughter.What can I do about this.I would really appreciate some kind of advice.Thank you louise

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. However, as Australian family law is very different to our UK laws, then I'm afraid we cannot answer this as we are a UK-based site with knowledge only of UK based-family law.
ProudGrandparents - 3-Mar-17 @ 10:25 AM
Hi i would like some advice about my sons ex girlfriend stopping myself and other family members from having any kind of access to my granddaughter.. I have absolutely done anything wrong for her to stop me from seeing her...My sons ex girlfriend lives in tasmania and i live in sydney..I just don't understand why she has stopped me as im her grandmother my granddaughter is nearly 1 years old..My son and now hes ex girlfriend are no longer together she has also stopped my son from having any kind of access to hes daughter..What can i do about this..I would really appreciate some kind of advice..Thank you louise
Lou - 2-Mar-17 @ 6:48 AM
When people mistreat their grown children or their grown children's spouses, they need to be aware that there are consequences to their actions. Some people believe that once a new baby comes along, all is forgiven "for the sake of the baby". I don't think anyone should be excused from bad behavior just because of their family title.. I think that family should forgive and forget in most cases but there is a fine line between FAMILY disagreements and TOXIC RELATIVES! If you are wrongly denied visitation to your grandchildren then I deeply am sorry that you are having to experience that. As for the ones who cause trouble and feel entitled and that they have "a right" to their grandchildren, you are sadly mistaken.
MEJ - 28-Feb-17 @ 2:44 AM
17077 - Your Question:
We have 2 grandchildren one us nearly 5 and one nesrly 2 who live one and half hour bus ride away, we only get to see them when there parents say it is alright to do so our oldest grandson we have only baby sat him once he has never slept over and even though his mum has a mobility car never fetch them to see us they only call when they need something and we feel we are losing contact with our grandchildren it is like they do not us as grandparents in there life's and they just want mother and the other grandmother.

Our Response:
I'm afraid it is an all too common scenario with regards to the paternal grandparents, especially when parents have separated, but also when the parents remain together. The maternal grandparents quite often seem to get preferential treatment whether through convenience, familiarity, close proximity etc. Your best option is to talk to the parents, not in a negative way i.e 'you never let us see our grandchildren'. But in a positive way, such as: 'we would really like to do more for our granchildren and spend more time with them. Tell us how we can help and what we can do to make this happen?' You also have to make an effort to arrange to see them, if you can. Perhaps doing so on their home turf will help, such as arranging to take them out for the day local to where they live will help forge those bonds. Please see link here which may help.
ProudGrandparents - 15-Feb-17 @ 10:59 AM
bubbles - Your Question:
My sons ex whom he had a bit of a fling with, has taken him to court saying alot of stuff thats not true about him. Without going into that. She is not letting me see my grandchild who is used to seeing me a couple of times a week and I havent seen her for 10 weeks now. they went to court last week and the judge and child lawyer told her she has to let me see the child but she is still just not letting me. gone from false promises where she says yes you can and them leaves me waiting at a park or whereever for an hour an does not show. totally playing with my emotions as she knows I love the child so much. now she is just not answering me at all. she doesnt care about the fact shes hurting the child. I cant see though my son as she has stopped him as well even though they did have 50/50 and he cant do anything till court in may. any advive?

Our Response:
If there is a court order in place saying that you are entitled to see your grandchild, and your son's ex is breaching that order, then I suggest you ask your solicitor to write a letter to your ex reminding her of the terms of the order and the repercussions if she continues to stop access. Every breach should be logged and listed in the letter. If she continues to stop you seeing your grandchild, you should take the matter back to court. It may seem like a fruitless, long and protracted exercise, but it does have results. I hope this helps.
ProudGrandparents - 15-Feb-17 @ 10:21 AM
We have 2 grandchildren one us nearly 5 and one nesrly 2 who live one and half hour bus ride away, we only get to see them when there parents say it is alright to do so our oldest grandson we have only baby sat him once he has never slept over and even though his mum has a mobility car never fetch them to see us they only call when they need something and we feel we are losing contact with our grandchildren it is like they do not us as grandparents in there life's and they just want mother and the other grandmother.
17077 - 14-Feb-17 @ 6:58 AM
my sons ex whom he had a bit of a fling with, has taken him to court saying alot of stuff thats not true about him. Without going into that. She is not letting me see my grandchild who is used to seeing me a couple of times a week and i havent seen her for 10 weeks now. they went to court last week and the judge and child lawyer told her she has to let me see the child but she is still just not letting me. gone from false promises where she says yes you can and them leaves me waiting at a park or whereever for an hour an does not show. totally playing with my emotions as she knows i love the child so much.. now she is just not answering me at all. she doesnt care about the fact shes hurting the child. i cant see though my son as she has stopped him as well even though they did have 50/50 and he cant do anything till court in may. any advive?
bubbles - 14-Feb-17 @ 1:38 AM
Hi, I would like some advise on how to gain access to my Grandchildren please? In 2015 I lived near my eldest daughter, son in law and two Grandchildren. I went to live there because she said she would give me more time and care than my son and daughter in law had to give. I believed that we had a great relationship and indeed I had a wonderful close relationship with my Grandchildren. A predicament arose where my niece wanted to come to see me and stay with me over a weekend but she would not come over without her Father, my brother. When my eldest was around 11 years old my brother abused her in a sexual manner so I asked her first if she would be comfortable with this. She said yes and I told her that I had her back and my Grandchildrens too and would never leave her or her children in a room with him alone. After a few visits all seemed to be going well but then one evening my eldest told me she wanted him out of her life. I sadly flipped as it was such a shock to me and said all the wrong things. We argued but a few weeks afterwards I apologised to both her and my son in law. The story of the abuse she told me left both myself and husband believing that my brother had tried to help her with her clothing and she said that he was breathing funny and she felt embarrassed. That night I apologised she told me the whole story for the first time and I was doubly shocked by what I heard. I had made a statement to the police as she had reported him telling them what I knew. I apologised to her many times after that but sadly she would not accept and my mental health deteriorated from there. She told me I had not to go to the court and her DS took that out of my hands as she felt I was in such a bad state mentally it would not have been good for me to be at court. My brother was found not guilty but just before then my eldest had got in touch with me and we were talking again as I was with my Grandson too. Afterwards however, she asked me if I had the opportunity to go into court and speak against my brother would I? I again gave the wrong answer for her and she has cut me off ever since. This morning she happened to send a rogue email to me and she has reiterated our position of no contact. I had a wonderful relationship with both my Grandchildren and I wish to resume that. I love them so much, miss them and would like to be a part of their lives. However, their parents will not allow this but I feel I gave so much to them in our relationship and I can be a good influence in their lives. I fear they have listened to their parents account of things and placed me firmly as someone who is bad. I would never tell them my opinions of the situation as I have always believed they should never have been involved or been in the hearing of what they heard, not all by me but certainly by their parents so contact would be purely to resume the fun and great relationship we had before. I would like mediation but my daughter insists she has forgiven me but
Poppy - 10-Feb-17 @ 1:40 PM
Am sharing my story as a way of helping myself - I know I will probably never be included in my grand children's lives again. Our eldest son is an alcoholic. Several weeks ago my youngest son received a call asking for help as the eldest had shoved his wife down the stairs when she tried to prevent him from going out drunk (he gambles when he does). Our youngest went and got him and took him to his house to sleep it off, he started cursing and swearing in the backyard when he got there and our youngest pushed him to the ground and told him to shut up and stay there. Our eldest then attacked our youngest (he is much bigger and stronger) and tried to strangle him. A friend present managed to pull him off and called the police. Our youngest son was left with bruising, lacerations and obvious choke marks around his neck. Needless to say we were devastated, this is so not the people we are. Our youngest refused to press charges. Our eldest is blaming his brother saying he started it when he pushed him to the ground - unbelievably he doesn't even see the relevance of his own actions in getting drunk and our youngest being asked for help. Because we have supported our youngest we are now being denied access to our grandchildren. My daughter-in-law, who is a lovely girl and with whom we have enjoyed a good relationship is agreeing with him. Her family are scared of him. We are worried for our grandchildren and daughter-in-law's safety as, although he is being very good now, we believe it is only a matter of time before something happens. I don't understand why he is like this, we enjoy a great relationship with our other two children and have always been a close and loving family.
Devastated - 9-Feb-17 @ 11:33 PM
Hi, I would like some advise on how to gain access to my Grandchildren please? In 2015 I lived near my eldest daughter, son in law and two Grandchildren. I went to live there because she said she would give me more time and care than my son and daughter in law had to give. I believed that we had a great relationship and indeed I had a wonderful close relationship with my Grandchildren. A predicament arose where my niece wanted to come to see me and stay with me over a weekend but she would not come over without her Father, my brother. When my eldest was around 11 years old my brother abused her in a sexual manner so I asked her first if she would be comfortable with this. She said yes and I told her that I had her back and my Grandchildrens too and would never leave her or her children in a room with him alone. After a few visits all seemed to be going well but then one evening my eldest told me she wanted him out of her life. I sadly flipped as it was such a shock to me and said all the wrong things. We argued but a few weeks afterwards I apologised to both her and my son in law. The story of the abuse she told me left both myself and husband believing that my brother had tried to help her with her clothing and she said that he was breathing funny and she felt embarrassed. That night I apologised she told me the whole story for the first time and I was doubly shocked by what I heard. I had made a statement to the police as she had reported him telling them what I knew. I apologised to her many times after that but sadly she would not accept and my mental health deteriorated from there. She told me I had not to go to the court and her DS took that out of my hands as she felt I was in such a bad state mentally it would not have been good for me to be at court. My brother was found not guilty but just before then my eldest had got in touch with me and we were talking again as I was with my Grandson too. Afterwards however, she asked me if I had the opportunity to go into court and speak against my brother would I? I again gave the wrong answer for her and she has cut me off ever since. This morning she happened to send a rogue email to me and she has reiterated our position of no contact. I had a wonderful relationship with both my Grandchildren and I wish to resume that. I love them so much, miss them and would like to be a part of their lives. However, their parents will not allow this but I feel I gave so much to them in our relationship and I can be a good influence in their lives. I fear they have listened to their parents account of things and placed me firmly as someone who is bad. I would never tell them my opinions of the situation as I have always believed they should never have been involved or been in the hearing of what they heard, not all by me but certainly by their parents so contact would be purely to resume the fun and great relationship we had before. I would like mediation but my daughter insists she has forgiven me but
Poppy - 9-Feb-17 @ 9:30 PM
I have not seen my 2 year old grandchild for 10 months. My son and daughter in law have denied me access, ostensibly because of a comment I made against her mother. I am becoming increasingly concerned about my son and grandchilds welfare as I believe that my daughter in law and her family are extremely controlling. For example, my son sends me text messages and I have reason to believe that his wife is unaware of this. They rent their home from her mother and I feel that he has to go along with what his wife and her family tell him to do for fear of repercussions. Her family are a force to be reckoned with and can become very abusive when challenged. Other family members have tried to mediate with him on my behalf but to no avail. He either ignores their messages or says that he will meet and talk with me but reneges at the last minute. He does the same with my parents, his grandparents. He arranges to see them and doesn't follow through. The next day his wife will contact my parents on his behalf with an excuse as to why he didn't show up. I miss my son but he is a man, husband and father and it is my grandchild that I am desperate to see. Can anyone advise?
Elouise - 9-Feb-17 @ 6:45 PM
Hi, I would like some advise on how to gain access to my Grandchildren please? In 2015 I lived near my eldest daughter, son in law and two Grandchildren. I went to live there because she said she would give me more time and care than my son and daughter in law had to give. I believed that we had a great relationship and indeed I had a wonderful close relationship with my Grandchildren. A predicament arose where my niece wanted to come to see me and stay with me over a weekend but she would not come over without her Father, my brother. When my eldest was around 11 years old my brother abused her in a sexual manner so I asked her first if she would be comfortable with this. She said yes and I told her that I had her back and my Grandchildrens too and would never leave her or her children in a room with him alone. After a few visits all seemed to be going well but then one evening my eldest told me she wanted him out of her life. I sadly flipped as it was such a shock to me and said all the wrong things. We argued but a few weeks afterwards I apologised to both her and my son in law. The story of the abuse she told me left both myself and husband believing that my brother had tried to help her with her clothing and she said that he was breathing funny and she felt embarrassed. That night I apologised she told me the whole story for the first time and I was doubly shocked by what I heard. I had made a statement to the police as she had reported him telling them what I knew. I apologised to her many times after that but sadly she would not accept and my mental health deteriorated from there. She told me I had not to go to the court and her DS took that out of my hands as she felt I was in such a bad state mentally it would not have been good for me to be at court. My brother was found not guilty but just before then my eldest had got in touch with me and we were talking again as I was with my Grandson too. Afterwards however, she asked me if I had the opportunity to go into court and speak against my brother would I? I again gave the wrong answer for her and she has cut me off ever since. This morning she happened to send a rogue email to me and she has reiterated our position of no contact. I had a wonderful relationship with both my Grandchildren and I wish to resume that. I love them so much, miss them and would like to be a part of their lives. However, their parents will not allow this but I feel I gave so much to them in our relationship and I can be a good influence in their lives. I fear they have listened to their parents account of things and placed me firmly as someone who is bad. I would never tell them my opinions of the situation as I have always believed they should never have been involved or been in the hearing of what they heard, not all by me but certainly by their parents so contact would be purely to resume the fun and great relationship we had before. I would like mediation but my daughter insists she has forgiven me but
Poppy - 9-Feb-17 @ 1:13 PM
Na - Your Question:
My sons girlfriend won't let our family see our granddaughter. I need to know can she do this without a judge setting this order

Our Response:
Your son's girlfriend can do this. Your option would have to seek legal advice regarding taking the matter to court for access. While grandparents do not have the amount of rights non-resident parents have when applying for access, judges do have sympathy. The courts will attempt to award some access if the grandparents have previously had a close relationship with the child.
ProudGrandparents - 9-Feb-17 @ 11:38 AM
Rosie160160 - Your Question:
I really don't know what to say. Looked for sites for estranged grandparents , hoping that I would see " oh in 5 years time you feel better" even though I know that couldn't be , just don't know how long I can bear this raw pain for , I have 3 granddaughters 19, 12 and 2 , all to my daughter , she has now decided the 2 year old has no grandparents ( I am widowed) her partner is a nice man so don't think it's anything to do with him , just her hatred of me, oh and the bank of mother being closed ,,,, I have nothing for heavens sake , working full time at 61 and live in s council house. All I can see is that ginger curly mop , who loves me as I love her , but she won't remember that in even 6 weeks time , she will forget

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. I can only suggest you seek legal advice about taking the matter to court. If you have had a good relationship with your grandchild/grandchildren to date, then you may have some recourse to obtain access.
ProudGrandparents - 9-Feb-17 @ 11:22 AM
I have a grandson thats 2 that I don't get to see because because my husband and i have been in trouble with the law but never put the baby or any of them in harms way. And we have stopped using and have both got treatmentand doing well. I love that baby with all I got but she still want let me see him .Lord she thinks she rite in what she is doing. Well she can't take the love I have for him.
Tackakamine - 9-Feb-17 @ 8:53 AM
My sons girlfriend won't let our family see our granddaughter . I need to know can she do this without a judge setting this order
Na - 8-Feb-17 @ 2:48 PM
I really don't know what to say . Looked for sites for estranged grandparents , hoping that I would see " oh in 5 years time you feel better" even though I know that couldn't be , just don't know how long I can bear this raw pain for , I have 3 granddaughters 19, 12 and 2 , all to my daughter , she has now decided the 2 year old has no grandparents ( I am widowed) her partner is a nice man so don't think it's anything to do with him , just her hatred of me, oh and the bank of mother being closed ,,,, I have nothing for heavens sake , working full time at 61 and live in s council house.... All I can see is that ginger curly mop , who loves me as I love her , but she won't remember that in even 6 weeks time , she will forget
Rosie160160 - 8-Feb-17 @ 2:22 PM
accounts when each of them were born. She had what she wanted, her husband apparently had the best day of his life, which is how it should be, so why use the children as weapons Anyone thinking of going down this route for your grandchildren, we wish you luck, the law in this country for grandparents is absolute rubbish and needs a real shake up, and don't rely on the professionals as even bad parents will be listened to before anything you might want to say. It should be the children's welfare which is of the utmost importance, not the bitter anger and selfishness of the parents At the end of the day, they may have taken our beautiful grandchildren away, but they can never take away the love we have for them every day.
Kaz - 7-Feb-17 @ 12:25 PM
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